When you date a guy, he becomes the centre of your world. Life becomes beautiful and you spend most of your time together. But life is not a fairy tale that ends with a happily ever after. When you’re in a relationship, there is a constant fear of losing him to someone else.
You start to feel a shift in his attitude. That is exactly when you should get your guard up. Look for these signs that most women ignore. Listen to what your gut’s call.
Suddenly he has a password on everything he owns! His privacy is an issue, and it is something which is not up for a discussion. He keeps his phone away, and becomes uncomfortable when you sit close to him while he is texting. Secret texts, emails or even calls are becoming frequent. This could be a sign leading to bigger problems. Find the right time to address it in a healthy and open discussion. Don’t confront him directly, be patient and listen closely to what he has to say.
Communication is the key to stable relationships. When your partner stops communicating, take it as a red flag. If he suddenly loses interest in building conversations, stops telling you about his friends or work, it is a definite sign of a problem.
He might not be cheating on you, but he could definitely be hiding something. Hidden emotions such as lack of trust, love or motivation can cause serious harm to your relationship. Better to catch it before it gets out of hand.
You can tell when someone is not comfortable or pretending to be normal around you – especially when it is someone you have been spending a lot of time with lately.
He should not become nervous or agitated just because you ask him a simple question about why he was late from work. You should be more concerned if he has not reacted this way before. Investigate the matter and keep your eyes open. He is up to something for sure.
Do you notice that he has a new found group of friends now? Have you been introduced to each other or are they someone you’ve only talked about? If he has nothing to hide, he will include you in his social group, or if not, you will at least know them by face.
If lately, your boyfriend is putting extra efforts over his appearance – such as unusually heavy use of after shave or perfume or showering more than his usual routine could mean a hidden clue you should not be ignoring. Cheaters tend to do this in order to overcome their guilt or to avoid revealing their new lover’s scent.
The attack is the best defence, and liars/cheaters know this best. They spend significant time planning how to cover their tracks. They anticipate your response and are prepared to handle it. They will shift their guilt over to you.
If you’re in a relationship, you have a right to question. Don’t fall for his ploy!
You don’t spend as much time together as you used to, and it is deeply affecting you. If your boyfriend or partner is cancelling his plans with you, know that he is making new ones with someone else. Even when he shows up, he is distracted and eager to leave.
Ask him why he wants to cancel the plan, and don’t forget to get the details. If he gets nervous or agitated while you ask for more information, something might well be fishy!
Something is odd between you two, and you can feel it in your bones – you just cannot accept it. Some things are different, but they seem so insignificant, you don’t really know how to address them. Your partner now wants you to spend more time with your friends, which is a great thing. But his extra emphasis on you spending more time with others rather than him is making you uncomfortable.
Cheaters tend to use this tactic to keep you busy, which means they have to answer fewer questions.
Love is blind, but trusting someone blindly is not recommended!
Is your boyfriend suddenly overly friendly and you cannot believe your lucky stars?
There are two reasons why a cheater or liar would become too good to be true. Having an affair can make someone feel more attractive and happier in general. For others guilt takes over, and they subconsciously try to make it up by doing extra favors. If your partner is faking it to cover up something, he will not be able to keep up with the act.
His working hours have suddenly become longer and attention span while he is with you, definitely shorter.
If you keep your eyes open, you will know what your partner is working hard at? If late working shifts are coupled with other signs such as significant lifestyle changes, you need to gear up for a big talk!
The bond with your boyfriend has lost its spark. Two of you rarely spend quality time together. The disturbing part is that your boyfriend does not seem to have a problem with it at all.
Do you ever feel your boyfriend might secretly be a writer?
Every time he shows up late for a date or dinner with your family, he has a perfect story ready before you can start to say something. You have to agree; the stories are entertaining,sometimes a bit over the top, but they seem to work, don’t they?
It is now getting out of your control.
You sit in the same room, across each other, but you don’t have much to say. He does not share his deep thought with you anymore, nor does he open up about his life like he once used to. Chances are he is sharing those special moments with someone else now. There is definitely a problem which needs to be addressed, even if it is not another someone special.
If your partner is cheating you or intentionally hiding something, the guilt and fear of getting caught will emotionally take a toll on him.
In reaction, it is likely that he will pick fights or over react on simplest issues. What makes things worse is if he becomes suspicious or judgmental. When someone cheats without getting caught, they expect others could do it as well.
othing feels worse than being invisible. Ensure you don’t go unnoticed, even when he stops noticing you.
He will change for you if he cares. If he does not, it’s time for you to take a decision.
By ignoring our intuition! It’s true, and just because you cannot prove someone is lying or cheating, does not mean they are not. Your intuition is your self defence mechanism that picks up on subtle clues, you tend to ignore. If you constantly feel something is fishy, don’t ignore your gut feeling.